Good Fathers Are Vital
Published July 30, 2021 · 7:33 · 131,891 views
About This Video
The boy turns three in three weeks, and he is finally old enough for a proper adventure. Van takes him to a Wilderness Collective trip, Vegas to Utah, and uses the trip to work through his anxiety about education. Canterbury Tales at 17. Not a single class about how to make money. That is the grudge.
The real subject is what it means to be a good father rather than a present one. Van draws a line between fathers who show up and fathers who model a way of being. The outdoor adventure is scaffolding. The question underneath: what kind of man are you teaching your son to become by the way you live, not by the things you say? Good fathers are not defined by devotion but by the quality of the struggle they let their children witness.
Transcript
all right I'm putting your pillow in with your um Sleeping Bag okay the boy turns
three in 3 weeks all and he's finally old enough for a proper adventure oh look at this cool old train Bud where's
that train going wow me here you go where are we going we're going
to Vegas and then we're going to Utah all right so you're going to boink
them you going to hit him withm but this video is not about Adventure per se it's about the puzzle of Education in
the Contemporary age how do we do it how many did you get two all
right how do we educate these kids I found a new one so many I found another one I found another one this spirited man has always found it extremely difficult to learn things
especially things that he's not interested in to this day he Bears a grudge that at
14 years old he was expected to read Great Expectations The Scarlet Letter
The Odyssey and The Crucible canterberry Tales at 16 or 17
years old canterberry Tales perfect for a 17-year-old American
Boy canterberry Tales at 17 and yet not a single class or lesson about how to
make [Music] money yeah well this D in there so he can drink the milkshake so this spirited man Justified taking this expensive and
timeconsuming trip by considering the trip continued education a continuation of learning how
to be a father by seeing how other fathers do it we need good
Fathers especially good fathers of [Music] sons strong and brave this spirited man knows he must teach his boy to be strong and brave it
may be the only thing he need to teach the boy maybe I'm doing
[Applause] it go in here Dad go you go in you go in you go in Brave but he has very little idea about
how to teach the boy how to learn you ready yeah about the only thing this spirited man understands about learning is that it's much easier to learn something if
the learning serves to help you better understand a thing you love
[Music] are you okay buddy yeah all right you tough what happened all day check it out an axle comes around they put their finger in it I that's why they got small fingers
right dop see what he's doing so he's roughing up the hole these boys are not only learning how to fix a
flat push his hands P his they're learning that a flat can be fixed and more importantly that a flat
can be fixed by them all right guys and this spirited man is learning how good dad's dad remember the story of the kids trapped in the cave the soccer players in
Thailand remember praying for them when you imagined yourself in that situation who were you did you imagine yourself
one of the kids or one of the adults trying to get them
out to make that on fire at night and in the mornings we'd sit around the fire
and talk about things unimportant things and important
things hello we are from Texas and Los Angeles and South Carolina and Tennessee
and New York City and we all seem to agree that the tide was Rising the world
was on fire and that the enemy was at the gates 108 it took 9 hours for each of those boys to get out of that cave where they had had been trapped for 17 days one man petty officer Beirut
pakbara died trying to save them what do they opened the garage
door air conditioning all 12 of the boys survived along with their coach they made it man and two weeks later my son was
born do you know what they used to do in here yeah they used to look for silver and gold they used to look for silver they used to look for gold
People Referenced
Saman Gunan
Books Mentioned
- Great Expectations
- The Scarlet Letter
- The Odyssey
- The Crucible
- Canterbury Tales